Just play the whole damn game and decide to have fun.
Have you every got a hole-in-one?
You would agree with me then, that rarely in life do we sink it first try.
The reality: life is made up of repeated failures.
Sometimes we aim intentionally… and fail.
Sometimes we try really hard and focus really strongly… and fail.
Sometimes we try trick shots… and fail.
Sometimes we just whack at it to see what happens… and fail.
Then one day, seemingly out of nowhere, it goes in!
Frustration comes when we think
"I should have got it in one shot"
"I shouldn't fail this much."
"I should have learnt by now."
"Other people do it easy."
On top of all that frustration, when we DO get it in, we tell ourselves it was a fluke! What?! What about all the time and effort you put into failing?? You forget about that, don't ya?
The take away point is this:
- Failing is part of the game.
- Sinking it is part of the game.
- So just play the whole damn game and decide to have fun along the way.
(Filming yourself doing it is optional)
Steph
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My life coaching program is open now for intakes. So head there now to see if it's right for you.
It's perfectly priced to help you gain confidence in me, confidence in coaching and confidence in yourself to keep going and sink those balls!
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“I don’t know”
Feeling Anxious?
The reasons we feel anxious are many and varied, but let me touch on just one today.
One thing I’ve noticed that fuels anxiety is asking open-ended questions and telling ourselves we don’t know the answer.
We all do it, it's common and mostly we do it unconsciously. So let me give you a few examples to help you catch yourself next time.
Open ended question examples:
Did I just do the wrong thing?
Does that person like me?
What will happen next?
If I was to ask you to answer those questions for yourself, chances are they’d all lead to the same response: "I don’t know."
And “I don’t know” can leave us feeling uncertain, out of control, and stuck in overthinking. Hello, anxiety.
Here’s the trick: Instead of stopping at I don’t know, follow it up with what you DO know.
Let's practice with these examples.
Question: Did I just do the wrong thing?
Answer: I don’t know.
Ask yourself: What do I know?
I don't know but I DO know I’ll cope with what will come.
I don't know but I DO know I’ll learn from it.
I don't know but I DO know I did my best with what I had at the time.
I don't know but I DO know I can apologise if needed.
Add your own answer: I DO know _______________
See what happened? You acknowledged the uncertainty, but you also reminded yourself of what you do know, what’s solid, what’s true, and what’s within your control.
When you close the loop on open-ended questions like this, you create certainty where there was none.
Let's try another example.
Question: Does that person like me?
Answer: I don’t know.
Ask yourself: What do I know?
I DO know I showed up as myself.
I DO know I’m learning and growing.
I DO know what’s meant for me won’t pass me.
I DO know I have good intentions.
Add your own answer: I DO know _______________
Question: What will happen next?
Answer: I don’t know.
Ask yourself: What do I know?
I DO know I will figure it out.
I DO know I can adapt if needed.
I DO know I have the support I need.
I DO know I’m practicing to be flexible, and that will help me.
Add your own answer: I DO know _______________
Leaving the answer as I don’t know is tempting but will only keep you stuck in uncertainty, and uncertainty breeds anxiety.
Shifting to what you do know moves you forward and calms the old brain down.
It helps you focus on what you can do and areas you can improve, not on the things you can't control like the future or other peoples opinions.
So there you go. A simple way to help redirect your thinking and help ease anxiety.
Try it out and let me know how you go.
I know you've got this.
Steph
The value of values when reaching your goals.
I’ve been hearing from my coaching clients this week:
“I’ve done my year plan… but now what?”
“How do I put it into practice?”
“Where do I even begin?”
There are plenty of steps to take, but to avoid overwhelming you, here is a a simple yet powerful starting point when taking action:
Know your values.
When it comes to executing a plan, decision-making is crucial. Having clarity around your values is a decision making game-changer. Clearly knowing your values:
Simplifies decisions.
Helps navigate tough conversations (like saying no).
Enables you to live with greater intention, alignment and focus.
How do you clarify your values?
I’ve got you covered.
I’ve created a FREE Values Workbook designed to help you:
Identify the values you currently embody and the ones you want to grow.
Use your values to simplify decision-making and strengthen communication.
Build resilience and live with intention through a practical framework.
Sounds good, right?
As a bonus, I’ve also included a step-by-step video to guide you through the workbook.
Whether you prefer visual guidance or just like having someone walk you through a process, this video is the perfect companion.
Download the Workbook + Watch the Video Here
Taking the time to connect with your values isn’t just a reflective exercise, it’s the foundation for being yourself better.
I encourage you to dive in. You may uncover some hidden gems about yourself along the way!
Keep smiling,
Steph
…and that’s ok.
Tell me I'm not the only one who talks to friends, family, coaches, colleges, strangers and pets, and finds themselves rambling on and on about the same old incidents.
He said this…
I did that…
This happened…
I’m feeling…
By continually talking about it, what are we after?
What are we hoping to achieve?
Have you considered the answer to be:
Permission.
We want permission to feel, think and act as we do. For it to be ok.
We thrive with permission from others.
Interestingly, we can also often hold back from GIVING permission to others.
Sometimes we find these stories circling in our mind, over and over, we beat ourselves up continually and can't get past it.
Until we give ourselves and others permission.
So next time you find yourself in one of those loops, try finishing the sentence with… and that’s ok.
Try that and notice how it feels
I'm feeling [blank] … and that’s ok.
He said [blank]... and that’s ok.
I did [blank]... and that’s ok.
I didn't do [blank]... and that’s ok.
Notice what your brain does then.
Send me an email [here] and let me how you felt after giving yourself and others permission to do, think and act freely.
Now, now, I know what you are going to tell me.
“Some things are just not ok, Steph!”
I know… and that's ok.
Of course there are moral and ethical lines not to cross.
Of course we all do things that aren't actually ok.
Of course we should have healthy boundaries and protect those.
But those aren't the times I'm talking about here.
I'm talking about all the little daily incidents that crop up.
The ones we like to hold ourselves accountable for.
Hoping that if we punish ourselves or others enough then we won’t make that mistake again.
Granted, that may work.
Using the STICK is certainly one way to motivate ourselves and others to action.
All I am offering you here is the thought that sometimes we can use a little more of the CARROT.
Try it and let me know how you get on.
How your relationships improve.
And how your inner monologue changes.
Trust me… it will all be ok.
Steph.
Want a Refreshing and Productive 2025? Try this
And just like that, we find ourselves at the pointy end of the year again.
How are you feeling? Stressed, overwhelmed, or a little exhausted?
Or maybe you’re feeling content, joyful, or peaceful?
It’s natural to feel a level of apprehension when something ends and something new begins, even if it is around arbitrary dates like December 31st and January 1st.
Although we know every day is an opportunity to start fresh; to grow, build, and improve, we tend to naturally gravitate towards goal planning, dare is say, life planning at this time of year. And news flash! It's actually a great thing to do.
We may want to put it off but it can be fun, refreshing and exciting.
Reflecting and planning energises us for the coming year. Making us feel like we are in control and a real powerhouse!
If you are a person who would like to give this a go, I have put together a simple end-of-year reflection and calendaring guide to help make your 2025 refreshing and productive.
My hope is that you find the process easy, fun and enjoyable.
I’ve created it to help you:
Reflect on the wins, lessons, and memories from 2024.
Reconnect with what matters to you.
Plan a year that feels energising and aligned; filled with the things that light you up.
You'll find a number of self reflective questions, some you may be able to answer quickly, others may take a little thinking about and that's okay, there’s no rush. But I promise, the clarity you gain will be worth it.
And then comes the fun part; calendaring your year!
All the details are in the workbook, but here's the gist: it involves cutting up a cheap calendar from the $2 shop, sticking it on your wall, and marking out your non-negotiables; the holidays, product launches, kids' milestones, date nights, downtime…whatever is important to you. Then step back, take it in, and feel organised, refreshed, and ready to go.
This calendaring process alone is well worth the effort, and you’ll be glad you took the time.
Ready to get started? Great!
Grab your FREE Refreshing and Productive 2025 Planning Guide Here
Let's light a spark in your coming year. I cant wait to see what you come up with.
Steph
Let’s Talk Growth, Goals, and Coaching.
I’m so excited to share my recent interview with Arlen from Agribusiness Mindset, a passionate leader in shifting mindsets in agribusiness across Canada and the US. This was such a great opportunity to talk about my journey into coaching, my passion for supporting others, and the incredible transformations I’ve seen when people embrace their growth.
In the interview, we discuss:
My journey into coaching and what inspired me to help others grow
How I work with clients to overcome challenges and achieve their goals
All the details about my FREE 6-WEEK COACHING PROGRAM starting Dec 1st
If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to work with me—or how coaching could help you step confidently into 2025 and beyond—this conversation is a must-watch.
I love being a support and encourager for those ready to grow, and I’m excited to share this passion with you.
Hit play to watch the full interview and learn how we can work together.
Steph
Journaling Made Simple. A free journaling guide.
"I love journaling"
No doubt you have heard that before.
But why do people love it so much?
It brings awareness to a situation, hidden thoughts to the surface, and it gives all those yucky looping thoughts a place to go.
There is something about the act of writing your thoughts down, screwing the paper up and binning it that helps you let that stuff go!
But often we struggle getting started, even if we know the habit is good for us.
With that in mind, I've created a new series of journaling workbooks to contain prompts and step-by-step instructionsto help you with the journaling process.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to journaling.
You can choose to stick to what I have in this pdf or just use it as a guide to follow when you wake up in the middle of the night spinning on that certain situation we won't mention.
Although I have not designed this particular journal to be burnt or binned, feel free to do what you need to do.
I've made it all nice and pretty so you can keep the wonderful thoughts you come up with during the process all in one place. You can then revisit it in a month and see how you have grown and remodelled your brain over that time.
Here is your copy of the first in the series.
Journaling Made Simple:
My Thoughts About.... Achieving Goals.
Download your free copy here
Why Journal About Goals?
This is the perfect time to uncovering your beliefs about your ability to achieve goals. We naturally reflect on the past year, our wins, our losses and what is to come. We tend to ruminate on the losses, the missed opportunities and how life is going by so quick.
Although we all get to start a fresh every moment, somehow we link a fresh start to January 1st.
If you find yourself feeling a little flat, unmotivated or uninspired as we head into Jan, thats totally ok, but this little journaling exercise may help you to uncover why that is and get that pep back in your step.
How It Works
It is a step-by-step process that is easy to follow.
Download it, fill it out, or just grab a pen and write it on the toilet paper that is in front of you. Yes, you.
Start with the first prompt and let your thoughts flow—no overthinking, no judgment. Use the exercises to gain clarity around your current thoughts on this subject.
Getting it out of your head will allow space for all those new beautiful beliefs you're about to create.
Are you ready?
Download you copy here.
Let's discovering more about yourself and building good healthy habits.
Warmly,
Stephanie
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Free Workbook - Craft your own Power Statements to Overcome Self Doubt
Download your FREE workbook here! Print it out and follow along with the video.
There are times in life when you set new challenges, dig deep with self development projects and push yourself to grow.
I’m going to let you in on a little secret— whenever you do something different like this, self-doubt is going to show up.
You bet, it’s all part of the process.
That little voice in your head that says, “I’m not good enough,” "I can't do this" "give up now", "others are better than me". Those moments of uncertainty are totally normal.
For some people, that voice is louder than others, but it will be there for us all.
But, you don’t have to let that doubt control you. Remember, YOU are in control.
To reinforce that, I have put together a fun and simple workbook to help you combat self-doubt, and I want you to check it out. Download it here
It's all about creating a powerful, personal statement that helps you push through those moments of uncertainty. It doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else—it just has to mean something to you.
Here’s how it works:
Take a look at the lists in the workbook.
On the left, you’ve got words and phrases that represent areas where we often feel doubt—things like “My business” or “My body” or even “My past.”On the right, you'll find powerful, emotive words.
Words like "thrilling," "worthy," or "beautiful."Mix and match these words to create a statement that helps you combat those doubts and gives you a boost of empowerment.
It sounds simple, and it is. But don't overlook it.
Here’s an example from me:
I chose to think "My business is art."
I love that because art is subjective. Not everyone is going to like it, see the value in it, or see what you see in it, and that is ok.
It touches everyone differently. It’s a form of self expression. Some parts of your artwork can mean a lot to you now but later you paint over it. It grows with the artist.
Taking that attitude helps me combat thoughts that it has to be right the first time, perfect, equal to others, or that everyone has to get this.
Feeling “it is art” says there are no rules. It’s uniquely mine, and that opens up curiosity and layers of creativity.
Now it’s your turn.
Look at the list, mix and match some words, and create your own empowering statement. You can even add your own words to the list if something specific resonates with you.
Once you’ve created your power statement, write it down in your “thoughts to think” book and practice it whenever doubt sneaks in.
I’d love to hear what powerful combination works for you—and why it resonates with you.
Ready to crush that self-doubt? Let’s get started.
Download and watch the accompanying video here
With power and confidence,
Steph
6-Week FREE coaching course
6 Weeks to a More Confident You
FREE 6-Week Coaching Course
As the year winds down, it’s the perfect moment to pause, reflect, and set the tone for a fresh, focused start to 2025. I’m so excited to invite you to my FREE 6-week life coaching course—a journey designed to help you gain clarity, focus, and the confidence to thrive.
Course Snapshot
In this course, we’ll start by exploring eight key areas of life, helping you evaluate each one to find where you’d like to focus. Together, we’ll choose the area that will make the biggest difference to you—and dive deep to create meaningful change.
The Details:
Start Date: December 1st, 2024
Format: 6x 1-on-1 personalised coaching sessions (1 hour each)
Session Frequency: Weekly, with breaks for reflection, integration and holiday fun.
Location: Zoom
Cost: Absolutely FREE!
How It Works:
This course is split into two phases:
Phase 1: Three sessions in December to build momentum and set strong foundations.
Phase 2: Three sessions in January to pick up where we left off and carry that energy into the New Year.
This schedule gives you a balance of guided support while also allowing time to reflect and integrate what we cover in each session.
What to Expect
While six weeks may seem short, focusing on one area deeply can create lasting change across all aspects of your life. Together, we’ll work to uncover insights, tackle specific challenges, and develop strategies that will ripple out to positively influence everything else you do.
Special Focus Option
If you’re anticipating particular challenges or goals with end-of-year rituals or New Year’s resolutions, we can customise our focus to ensure you approach them with calm, clarity, and confidence.
How to Join:
Ready to feel stronger, lighter, and more confident heading into 2025?
Here’s how:
Book a time for a quick, relaxed chat using the calendar below. We’ll get to know each other, answer any questions and pick an optimal weekly time for your 6-week journey.
Spots are limited, so don’t wait—reserve your place today!
Looking forward to helping you step into the New Year with confidence.
Warmly,
Stephanie
Ready to Grow? Join My Free Coaching Program!
Are you ready for a little boost as the holiday season kicks in?
This November, I’m inviting you to join Spring Forward, my brand-new 6-week coaching program—completely free!
With the busy holiday season and a new year around the corner, it's common to feel a little stretched.
Spring Forward is designed to help you feel empowered, energised, and in control so you can step into the new year feeling your best.
It's a free resource to help you take a breath, recharge, and get inspired.
I want to make sure you’re stepping into the new year feeling joyful and ready for all that’s ahead!
I'd love for you to take advantage of this opportunity.
Here’s what to expect:
Start Date: December 1st
Cost: Free
Duration: 6 weeks (with a holiday break)
Location: Zoom
Interested? email me here, and I'll be in touch with all the details.
Can’t wait to grow together.
Steph